On giving up

We are a culture in which giving up is not desired. Just think about the motivational speeches “There is no failure except in no longer trying.”, the Hollywood movies like the ones with the ugly boy and the drop-dead-beautiful blond that fall in love, even famous Adidas slogan “Impossible is nothing”.

Our natural tendency is to give up when things get hard and I guess all you need in hard times to get you back on the track is a good advice not to give up, cause the sky is the limit. I can imagine how many great things would not exist if people would give up at a certain point and loose their dream.

But then I can also think of many stupid things we stick to because we do not realize that at a certain point you should give up.

A few months ago I advised a friend to stick to what he is doing for 3 Months only, as I think he is good at it and in time the problems will not go away but he will learn to resolve or cope with them. I am glad I did that and I think it was not just an encouragement, but I believed in his capabilities.

During those 3 Months there were several occasions when I met him and he was truly pale, stressed and even very nervous. I kept encouraging him, while I knew that probably he had days when he didn’t even want to get out of bed and come to work.

But, I now wonder, what if it would have taken 6, 9, 12 Months for him to succeeded? Is it worth it? Where is the boundary when you give up the fight with no resents and move on to another challenge?